I turned 30 last year ( Thanks for the sympathies but no, it’s not as bad as I thought it would be :D ). Or maybe, that’s because I had my existential crisis at 29 itself. Take that life! But no seriously, my favorite part about this change of age bracket is being able to flaunt my suddenly acquired wisdom to anyone and everyone who would listen. ‘Listen am 30 ha, I’ve learned this much by now.’ or ‘Listen am not in my 20s anymore that I would not get this’. One would think I’ve not lost, but acquired two wisdom tooth suddenly.
But it definitely hits you sometimes, like when you fill a form and the age section looks like 29 30. It made me reflect on how I visualize my next decade and well, writing more often was definitely on the top. So, here we are.
More importantly, it made me think of my last decade. The mistakes. And the lessons. Oh ! The lessons. The thing about life is the dots can only be connected backwards. So, here’s what I am taking to my 30s and would want all 20 and 30 year olds to remember :)
-You can't convince someone to fall in love with you. They either do or they don't.
- Give up soft drinks, you will thank yourself later.
- Say your thank yous.
- Love doesn't come with with guarantees, just like life.
- Let go. - Progress »»» Perfection. Life changing.
- If it feels wrong in the gut, it most probably is.
- Give hugs. - Everyone gets bored of their job from time to time, even the ones who gush about it all the time. It’s okay. - It gets better. It takes time but it always does.
- That perfect life? It exists somewhere between reality and dreams.
- Call your grandparents more often. They are the only people in the world who love you more than your parents. - Love doesn't necessarily mean togetherness. Almost always, It takes more than love to keep two people together. - Vegetables are more expensive when you start buying them yourself.
- Make peace with unanswered questions.
- Relationships should not lose to ego.
- Don't smoke. Period.
- Them leaving wasn't necessarily about you.
- Parents really want the best for you. Sometimes, they just don’t express it right.
- Regret is the worst kind of pain.
- Dental care is underrated. Very. - Dental care is expensive. Very. - Take pride in who you are.
- Sometimes people fall out of love.
- Time truly waits for no one.
- Sometimes age is more than just a number. Embrace the growth.
- Not all hobbies are supposed to become careers. Sometimes, they are just food for your soul and that's okay.
- There is nothing a waffle can't solve. - Being friends with an ex you were truly in love with, is most of the times always a bad idea. Abandon mission.
- You never forget how falling in love had felt for the 1st time. - Always have one thing you enjoy doing, that’s not for your CV. You’ll never be bored.
- Depression is for real.
- Change what you can. ( control ) Accept what you can't.
- If you write to Santa on his official address, he will reply back. I promise. - A good family is a blessing we undervalue.
- One more episode is actually 2 more episodes. Or 3 or 6 or 10.
Weekly Recommendation :
Since we’ve talking about life lessons this week, my recommendation is to watch this wonderful TED talk on what makes a good life. The million dollar question huh ? Turns out the answer is very very simple. Hear it out.
I enjoy reading psychology and strongly advocate mental wellbeing, so ‘The Science of Happiness’ as a field fascinates me a lot. (You will be hearing more on this in upcoming editions.) I loved this TED talk because it gave me a reality check that maybe life is not as complicated as we make it. Also, It is among the most popular Ted talks of all times : )
Do write back and let me know your thoughts ?
See you next week.
Stay Safe, Be Kind ! Love Sumedha
What a wholesome share! Some funny some hard hitting but lessons nonetheless! ❤️
Beautifully written! Looking forward to reading more here 😊